{"id":658,"date":"2010-08-28T00:01:01","date_gmt":"2010-08-28T06:01:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/?p=658"},"modified":"2010-08-28T00:01:01","modified_gmt":"2010-08-28T06:01:01","slug":"coming-out-a-grace-response","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/?p=658","title":{"rendered":"Coming Out: A Grace Response"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>If your long-time friend announced that he was gay, how would you respond?\u00a0 If your son or daughter declared their homosexuality, what would you say?\u00a0 If a co-worker of many years confided in you that he was gay,\u00a0how would you treat him at work?\u00a0 In our culture, those questions are certainly not unimaginable.\u00a0 All over America, on any given day, people are faced with these dilemmas.\u00a0 And, these circumstances happen to Christians and non-Christians alike.\u00a0 Just because a person is a follower of Jesus Christ does not automatically exempt them from the very messy and often-times ugly confrontations that result when a close friend or family member reveals their sexual orientation.\u00a0 How will we choose to respond to gay marriage<\/a>, gay families<\/a>, and gay friends?<\/p>\n

On Wednesday, President Bush’s campaign manager in 2004 and a former head of the Republican National Committee became the highest ranking Republican to announce that he is gay.\u00a0 Ken Mehlman, in publicly declaring his sexual orientation, said<\/p>\n

Everybody has their own path to travel, their own journey, and for me, over the past few months, I’ve told my family, friends, former colleagues, and current colleagues, and they’ve been wonderful and supportive. The process has been something that’s made me a happier and better person. It’s something I wish I had done years ago.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When Christians confront the issue of homosexuality from a distance, there is a tendency\u00a0on the part of some\u00a0to classify this sin as greater than any other sin.\u00a0 In theory, if not in practice,\u00a0being gay\u00a0ranks only second behind blaspheming the\u00a0Holy Spirit in the sin rank.\u00a0 And, don’t kid your yourself.\u00a0 Christians (and in fact everyone) have rankings for sins or behavior\u00a0that they find more or less offensive.\u00a0 If you don’t believe me, ask\u00a0your typical Southern Baptist (especially in the South) if drinking alcohol or gossiping is worse.\u00a0\u00a0They might\u00a0tell you that they are equal, but it’s hard to believe when gossip seems to be the #1 affliction within Baptist churches.<\/p>\n

It’s easier to make pronouncements about Ken Mehlman\u00a0or others who have come out of the closet.\u00a0 “I could\u00a0never be supportive of that lifestyle and I certainly don’t think it’s wonderful,” some might\u00a0find it easy to say.\u00a0 But, let’s change the circumstances.\u00a0 Would you find it easier or harder to be supportive of the\u00a0son that proudly announces he’s moving in with his girlfriend and they are expecting a new baby in six months?\u00a0 How do you interact with your son and his girlfriend\u00a0both before and after the baby is born?\u00a0 Is your best friend still your best friend when he tells you he’s divorcing his wife and setting up a new home with his newfound\u00a0“soul mate?”<\/p>\n

Now, I believe that each of these circumstances, including all sexual expression outside of heterosexual marriage, is what the Bible calls sin.\u00a0 Even though we are thousands of years removed from when Scripture was written, I believe God’s Word is true and relevant at all times and in all cultures, including in the United States of America in 2010.\u00a0 That being said, how should conservative, Biblical Christians react when a family member, friend, or co-worker comes out of the closet as gay?\u00a0 What does it mean to be “supportive” in this situation and does that look different from someone who comes a this issue from a non-Christian perspective?<\/p>\n

Christians, including Baptists, are often fond of saying “love the sinner, but hate the sin.”\u00a0 If we truly believe this, then that should give us a clue as to how we should respond when someone we love and care about is living a lifestyle that we believe the Bible says is morally wrong.\u00a0 Being supportive does not necessarily mean that we approve of the lifestyle choices that another person makes.\u00a0 However, being supportive does mean that we do not cut someone out of our lives for choices that they make, even if we believe those choices are morally wrong.\u00a0 Being supportive means to remain in relationship with people so that we can be a positive influence in their lives.\u00a0 Being supportive means to treat people with respect and dignity, as individuals made in the very image of God.<\/p>\n

Being supportive, when it comes right down to it, is to see people through the eyes of Jesus and to share His love and His Gospel.\u00a0 Of course, that’s sometimes much easier said than done.\u00a0 And when we look with Jesus’ eyes, we must peer through the lens of Scripture.\u00a0 If we don’t, then we are likely to put on our own rose-colored glasses and allow our own feelings and opinions to skew our view of reality and truth.<\/p>\n

When we respond to the sexual brokenness in people’s lives, we have no better example than Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman at the well that we read about in the Gospel of John 4:1-42.\u00a0 In the middle of the day, with the sun bearing down, Jesus stops for a drink in Samaria.\u00a0 A woman, who had been married and divorced five times and who was living with a man without benefit of marriage, came up to the well where Jesus was.\u00a0 Jesus, knowing this woman’s background, did not shun her or turn away from her, but instead entered into a life-transforming relationship with her.\u00a0 Jesus did not excuse or minimize this woman’s morally wrong choices in life, but he talked with her and shared with her how she could have a new life if she drank from the Living Water that Christ offers.\u00a0 The woman’s life was so radically changed that others in her town were changed as well.<\/p>\n

What would have happened if Jesus\u00a0ignored this obvious sinner?\u00a0 How would her life have been different if Jesus did not extend grace — unmerited favor — to a sinner in need of a\u00a0Savior?\u00a0 How would my life have turned out if Jesus had withheld\u00a0His hand of mercy and grace?\u00a0 Thankfully, Jesus did not turn away from me, even when I chose to travel down my own path.\u00a0 When\u00a0people like Ken Melhman, or people that we know personally, choose\u00a0a path that we wish they hadn’t, will we be supportive or will we turn away?\u00a0 That choice is ours and ours alone to make!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If your long-time friend announced that he was gay, how would you respond?\u00a0 If your son or daughter declared their homosexuality, what would you say?\u00a0 If a co-worker of many years confided in you that he was gay,\u00a0how would you treat him at work?\u00a0 In our culture, those questions are certainly not unimaginable.\u00a0 All over…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[23,27],"tags":[243,451,495,581,828],"class_list":["post-658","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-grace","category-homosexual-agenda","tag-coming-out","tag-grace-2","tag-homosexuality","tag-ken-mehlman","tag-republican-national-committee"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1LP7G-aC","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/658","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=658"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/658\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=658"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=658"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/fromlaw2grace.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=658"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}